Bloom in Wellness

This ‘Bloom in Wellness’ section displays images and reflections (some from our ‘Bloom in Wellness’ Facebook page) to help you remain encouraged and to give you hope while you patiently wait for your recovery process to be completed. Please visit often – whenever you need an emotional ‘pick me up’. We hope you will find what we share here to be uplifting.

safe space

Please be gentle in the things that you say to yourself. Imagine that you are a vulnerable little child. What would you say to him or her? You would find reassuring things that are calming – that will soothe and induce feelings of safety. This is how you must choose to nurture yourself.

It’s easy to lose perspective when you get caught up in a spiral of anxious thoughts, all of which are just thoughts and are not reality. But they can be powerful and will overwhelm if believed to be true.

So today, remember to be kind to yourself. Think of what you would say to that scared child or to a friend you care deeply about and say those things to yourself. It will make a big difference to how you cope.

Sending gentle, healing thoughts, Baylissa Bliss

You will get through

“Never give up. It’s like breathing – once you quit, your flame dies letting total darkness extinguish every last gasp of hope. You can’t do that. You must continue taking in even the shallowest of breaths, continue putting forth even the smallest of efforts to sustain your dreams. Don’t ever, ever, ever give up.” ~Richelle E. Goodrich

 

dyer kindness

Today I choose to be kind to others in my words and actions. I am aware that the people I interact with have their own challenges, some of which may be different to mine.

The words I say and the things I do can impact their lives and so I choose wisely. I regard others without judgement, and with empathy and compassion. I don’t always have to have the last word or win every argument.

I won’t always know what struggles people may be facing and whether what I say or do will contribute to making them feel more distressed or more encouraged.

With this in mind, I tell myself that what is most important, is that I am kind.~Baylissa Bliss

“Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.”~ Kahlil Gibran

acceptance

There may be days when you feel uncertain and doubtful. This is normal… a part of our humanness. If you are feeling overwhelmed, fed up or even angry, try not to be self-critical.

The most effective way of dealing with those times when you just can’t be bothered to encourage yourself or to make the effort to “be positive” is to just observe how you feel, tell yourself it is okay and normal to feel like that, take a few deep breaths and make peace with the way things are. In other words, don’t resist your authentic feelings. Accept them. (The same applies to how you regard your symptoms.)

Then gently remind yourself of all you have overcome, including other days when you felt the same. Think of how far you’ve come and how strong, courageous and resilient you are. And you do this because it is true; not because you are trying to get rid of the feelings. That’s all you need to do. Nothing more.

Soon enough you will once again feel confident in your ability to cope with whatever the day brings, and with the belief that all is well. You will notice a shift in your energy – that it has become lighter, brighter and peaceful. This is how powerful acceptance is. ~Baylissa Bliss

I wait

As I patiently wait, I am gentle in the things I say to myself.

If ever the “what if” thoughts that lead to that downward spiral begin, I remind myself that they are only thoughts fuelled by withdrawal-induced fear and not my reality. They are not true and I don’t have to believe them. Those dreaded scenarios I am envisaging will never happen! This is how I would reassure a friend and this is what I say to myself.

I also now choose to release the past. I let go of any self-blame or what I may have perceived as past mistakes. If I feel I have made bad decisions that have contributed to my current difficulties, I gently let go of these judgements and, instead, acknowledge how courageous and determined I am.

I know that with very little awareness on the part of many of those who provide care, everything I have experienced because of these highly addictive prescribed drugs is understandable and validated.

More than anything, I keep in mind that this challenge is not going to last forever.

Instead of looking back at my losses and then decisions, I accept what is happening now and see it as a necessary path to my wellness. My receptors ARE in the repair process and my recovery IS unfolding.

No matter what is happening for me today, I will keep going. I know I will cope. I am patient. I am stronger than I think, and I have an infinite supply of courage.

Hope is my constant companion and perseverance keeps me holding on. I trust that I am healing and that I on the way to being well again. ~Baylissa Bliss

cat thinking

Work on Your Unwanted “What if?” Thoughts

Question any doubtful thoughts you may be having about your recovery. This approach is different to using affirmations or positive self-talk.

For most in withdrawal, the two main culprits are: “What if I never recover?” and “What if something else is wrong with me?” We call them the dreaded ‘what if’ thoughts.

They are dangerous and can drive you close to insanity. You must remember that they are only thoughts. You don’t have to believe them. They are not true. Take a few moments to assess them, then change your perspective: Is this definitely, without uncertainty, going to happen? The answer is “No.”

Yet, these thoughts which trigger a knee-jerk reaction are the source of worry and additional anxiety. They fuel so much fear that once entertained, a downward spiral begins leading to a most unfortunate sequence of events, culminating in a devastating (imagined) future. All of this anguish from a thought that is not true.

How things may appear to you because of your current symptoms differs from the reality – which is that you will heal.

So, when thoughts of a permanent withdrawal or a dreaded disease creep into your mind, work on them. Ask yourself if they are absolutely true. Don’t try to explain or justify them. Am I certain beyond doubt? No. Is there any possibility of another outcome? Yes, there is.

The truth – what will serve you best right now – is that your symptoms are due to withdrawal and you are going to recover. (Excerpted from “Recovery & Renewal” by Bliss Johns)

don't confuse path

Reflection: Life is filled with many adventures… some good and others challenging. Withdrawal has been one which tests my strength, patience and courage. At its worst, I struggle to cope and can become overwhelmed. When this happens, I tend to get lost in the experience without remembering I am actually on a path of healing, which is leading to recovery.

If ever I feel trapped, as if there is no way out, I remind myself that this experience is temporary… that it will not last indefinitely. I think of those before me who are now recovered, well and happily involved in life again. This allows me to regain perspective.

Regardless of what this day brings, I will exhale and let go of any anxieties and concerns that may surface, trusting that just when the timing is right for me, my withdrawal will come to an end and I will move on to happier, more fulfilling and exciting adventures! Baylissa Bliss

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